Summer is the perfect time for finding more freedom in our lives. There is a natural energy that is easy, breezy and begs to be carefree! So today I’m going to talk a little about letting go and finding the freedom that comes naturally with that. xo Hunter
“You can never get what you truly desire, if you remain attached to what your suppose to let go of.”
I read this somewhere recently…. don’t remember where exactly but love the sentiment. On my best days, I’m all about change; new things, new ideas, new people! But I’ve often found in my own life and working with clients, that it’s hard for radically different energies to manifest when we’re clinging to a past that no longer serves us.
Letting go is powerful. It frees the way for new experiences to come in. But it can be one of the most difficult things to do. It’s often wrought with apprehensions about what it will mean for our future, nostalgia for the past, and fear of the unknown. And letting go of too much at once can simply be devastating and destabilizing. So how do we let go in healthy ways?
1. Get clear on what is really no longer serving you. Most of us have a pretty good idea on this one – maybe it’s a relationship, a friendship, a job, or an unhealthy habit. Take stock and make a list, mentally or written of the anchors that are weighing you down.
2. What can you loosen your grip on? It may not be appropriate, easy or even healthy to let go of everything at once. Pick one or two things that you can back away from just a bit… spend less time talking to that perpetually negative friend, cut back on the sugar or late night binge watching. Pick just a couple of things and start to make a change.
3. Add something new and healthy and fun! Maybe it’s time to start looking for a new job, making a career switch or starting that workout routine. Adding something new to your life automatically makes less time for old stuff. Throwing something fun in the mix is well… just fun! And it helps to divert your mind away from any overly dramatic feelings of loss.
4. What can you let go of completely? We all have something…. keep it small! If you want to let go of debting, maybe start by just leaving your favorite credit card at home. Want to stop eating sweets? Stop it all together after 7pm. Choose something you can stick to for at least 3 weeks, it takes this long for a new habit to take hold but it’s great to get that “win” and feeling of accomplishment.
5. Don’t start today. Yes… really. Give yourself a couple of days to think about this; plan, strategize and then take action. But DO plan and then YES, do it! You’ll have allowed time for the temporary enthusiasm to wear off and real practical resolve to set in.
Many times the things that we are most attached to are our habits, our beliefs and especially our (bad) ideas about what life is suppose to look like. They keep us stuck and struggling and unhappy in spite of our desire for happier, healthier lives.
Clinging to something too tightly is almost always out of fear; Fear that we’ll make a wrong choice. Fear that we won’t know how to handle the new and different. Or fear of ridicule, rejection or failure. Ease into it, take small manageable steps, and never apologize for following your own path to a truer expression of yourself.
Small methodical actions allow you to manage challenges as they come up – trust yourself to do this. You’ve got this! And I’ve always got your back.
Make one decision, challenge one idea, take one action… and give yourself a little more freedom.