When “life happens” (and I know a thing or two about life happening!) it can be tempting to throw in the towel; back down, or just plain give up. This can show up in many forms. It may look like “settling”, pretending it was never really that important, or simply quietly burying a dream. Often times all you really need is a little retreat to rest and regroup. But ironically it’s at the moment of defeat, or after a big let down, that we feel the least able to let ourselves off the hook with some kindness and self-care.
Those of you who know me have often heard me talk about self care. It is essential to remaining vital, vibrant, creative and productive. I’m not talking about bubble baths and massages here, (although both are wonderful and much appreciated!) What I’m referring to is caring for your body and soul, and nourishing yourself of course physically, but also mentally, emotionally and creatively. This will allow you to endure the setbacks that are inevitable in life, and to build and grow over the long run.
We’ve all had days when….
- The car broke down
- A client cancelled
- People didn’t show
- Everyone says no
- Your wallet got stolen
- Your best friend lied … and the list goes on.
These are the days when we we’re tired, hurt, scared, discouraged, out of patience, low on money or feeling just “not enough”.
It happens. And the remedy while part perseverance, is always easier when married with self-care.
I’m not going to give you the pep talk here with something about it’s always darkest just before daylight or anything else that may feel trite in the moments of stress and exhaustion. But the truth is, everything you’ve worked for – all the mistakes you have made and lessons you have learned, all the time and money you’ve spent on education, personal growth, and building your life to the point it’s at today, is lost the moment you decide to quit.
If you’re at that place, feeling like your back is against the wall, it’s simply time for a break and a little self-care. A few years ago, after an extended period extreme adversity I took an entire year off and lived as a nomad. It was a hiatus to regroup and reset. While I certainly wouldn’t recommend this for everyone, and it wasn’t without challenges, it was by one of the best thing I had ever done in my life to that point. I grew as a person in ways I don’t think I could have staying at home. I felt filled up and nourished by the new and often bizarre experiences, and I came back with an enormous new capacity for creativity. Since then, my life and career has also grown in leaps and bounds, and it just wouldn’t have been possible without the self care.
This week, if only for an hour or a day, let yourself off the hook. Retreat, rest and regroup. Know that you are deserving of it, and ultimately, it creates space for new and wonderful to take place.